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Home Based Women Entrepreneurs Research Study
Summer is officially ending, with Labor day and the
start of school. For the WAHM
that may mean more time for business during the day while the kiddies are
in school. As for me, I will be
returning to the University of Wisconsin
Sept. 5th to resume working on my bachelor’s degree in Psychology
with a minor in Women’s Studies.
That also means that my research project on Home Based
Women Entrepreneurs will be moving into the second phase.
If you have not had a chance to take the first survey,
it will be open for one more week.
You can go here to take the survey.
Participants for the second survey will be randomly
chosen from those that completed the initial survey and sent and invitation
via e-mail to take the next survey.
Don’t miss this chance to be apart of this
groundbreaking research!!
What Ingredients Makes a Good Relationship?
I had coffee with a very good friend
of mine. She was down because
she had recently broke up with her boyfriend. We sat at my kitchen table, drinking
coffee as she talked to me about her disappointment, not from just the most
recent relationship, but a pattern of relationships over the last several
years.
“It seems like I am always the
one that gives…I give and give hoping they are going to give
something back to me, but it never seems to happen…” she said
with tears in her eyes.
I think at one point in our lives,
we have all been in a relationship that does not meet our needs. I know from personal experience that
one of the reasons that we struggle in relationships that are not healthy
for us is because of lack of self-love.
If we do not see ourselves as
deserving more, we often times take what we can get, instead of waiting for
a relationship that is better for us.
I know this is the case in the example of my friend.
Not, only did she lack a healthy
relationship with herself, but she had a fear of never finding the right
relationship. Therefore, she
was willing to get into a relationship and try to make it work, instead of
waiting for someone that she could enter a relationship that would meet her
needs and be based on mutual love, respect, and
giving.
This idea of “settling”
to avoid being lonely is almost always a recipes
for disaster.
So, how do you recognize a good
relationship from one that you “settled” for?
1) LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE ANYONE ELSE
CAN LOVE YOU! You have to have
a loving relationship with yourself.
You have to know that you deserve to have someone in your life that
supports you. Someone that you
feel you can trust and have mutual respect for. If you are not at this point then it
is time to put sometime into yourself.
Look at it as an investment, if you have a healthy sense of self,
you are going to know what relationships will nurture you and allow you to
nurture in a healthy way.
2) COMMUNICATE! Communication is one of the key
ingredients to a healthy relationship. You have to be able to talk problems
out, to be able to express your opinions, thoughts, feelings, and fears,
openly. You have to be able to not only be able to communicate your dreams to your
partner, but also to be able to communicate about problems or issues in
your relationship. Not talking
about things that are not working in your relationship doesn’t
make them go away, in fact they will come back bigger each time.
2) RESPECT AND
TRUST. I have come across so many people
that are in relationships that do not trust the person that they are with. If you can not trust your
partner then there is a real problem.
The same with respect, a relationship is a partnership, if you are not being respected or if you do not respect the
person you are with, it is going to be hard to build a lasting
relationship.
If you are not happy in your present
relationship or in your past relationship patterns, it is time to look at
what needs to change in order to bring in the ideal relationship into your
life. REMEMBER, YOU ARE WORTH IT!
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