Self-Esteem is often the forgotten area of our lives, of course we all know we need healthy self-esteem, but  it is often neglected.  It is hard to wrap your mind around the idea that self-esteem effects everything in our lives.  I often give the example that self-esteem is the window that we look through to see the world, when it is not healthy then we see a distorted or in some cases a negative picture of the world. When it comes to our work lives low self-esteem can cause problems just like it does in other areas.

A major side effect of low self esteem is lack of confidence.  Without confidence in yourself it will be harder to create the kind of professional professional success that you want.  Whether you own your own business or work for someone else, lack of belief in yourself can hinder professional growth.

Think about what may be holding you back professionally, if you have low self-esteem, it could be you holding yourself back.  What we feel and think about ourselves transcends into everything we do, like that big report your boss gave you to do or the new project you want to start for your own business.  Low self-esteem may steer you down the road of "playing it safe" instead of taking a leap.  It may prevent you from taking your career where you want it to go or starting up your own business.    

The good news is that  you have the power to improve the relationship with yourself, boosting your self-esteem.  A healthy self-esteem will allow you to believe in yourself and engage in positive self-talk that will give you encouragement to create and follow through on goals that will take you where you want to go.  Improving your sense of self will open up more professional possibilities and increase your over all satisfaction with your work.

Coming soon to Life By Design, Business Assistance. I will be offering coaching, education, support, resources, and tools for individuals that want to improve their work lives.  Whether you are business owner struggling or needing information on how to start your own home-based business, LBD can help. 

I highly recommend Paula Parrish's book The Journey to Be Your Own Best Friend, the book takes you through steps to create a loving relationship with yourself and that is what self-esteem is all about!  

In 2002 I got a call from my grandmother, "Something is wrong with your dad." she said and I could tell that she was panicked.  My brother and I went right over to his house, to find that he was confused.   

Several medical tests and doctor visits later my father was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia, a condition most closely related to Alzheimer's where the memory is affected.
In a matter of a week my life had drastically changed and the timing could not have been worst.  I was already going through a divorce, highly emotional and scared about being on my own.     

In the 6 years since his diagnoses I have watched as a bit of my father that I had known my whole life slips away everyday.  Thankfully we found the right doctor 2 years ago that has helped him stabilize and regain some cognitive functioning.

It is never the thought of adult children that someday we are going to have to take care of our parents, that we will be robbed of simple moments such as putting our child in the arms of your parent, eager to share in experience of parenthood.  I feel my heart break when we go visit my dad and he points to my son and asks who he is, my son will never experience the grandfather that I knew my dad would have been.  I will never get resolutions from the issues that my dad and I had when he was well.  

It can be hard to accept that this is the grand plan, that there is a reason that our loved ones have to go through, that there is something to learn from losing the father that I knew when I was 27 years old.  In 6 years I have struggled with acceptance.  I have grieved a loss.  I have gone through the gambit of emotions from tears to anger and I am not any closer to understanding why this happened, but I am closer to peace than I have been in a long time.   

"It’s estimated that 34 million Americans serve as unpaid caregivers for other adults, usually elderly relatives, and that they spend an average 21 hours a week helping out, according to a study being released today by AARP. Millions more grown children are calling regularly, flying into town every few weeks or months or just stopping by to take Mom or Dad to the doctor."  (source: USA Today)

I talk more about this 6 year journey with my dad in a 3 part series I did with Rebbekah White from Heal Yourself Talk Radio. 

Part 1 on Heal Yourself Talk Radio
Part 2 on Journey to Self (this is only an 18 min show)
Conclusion on Journey to Self 

Mom's Moments: The Beginning

 

One of the greatest passions in my life is being a mother.  It was a long journey to motherhood.  It took me through an ex-husband, a side trip of self-discovery, and finally finding my soul mate before being a mother even seemed like a good idea.  I know there was a time in my 20’s when I thought to myself "Everyone else has a baby...why don’t I want one?"  (Listen to this Mom's Moment)

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