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Foundation of Self
By Tonya Ramsey
Imagine you are building a house. The first and most important step is
to start with a strong foundation.
A good foundation will support the structure of the house; a bad foundation
will cause endless problems with the stability of the structure. The same thing applies to our own
foundations. If we do not have
a healthy strong foundation, everything that we try to build on top of it
is going to topple down.
Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence, and Self-Image make up the
foundation of self. Low
self-esteem, lack of self-confidence or negative self-image can weaken and
destroy our foundation. A
fragile foundation hinders self-improvement and goal obtainment because as
we try and try we see our efforts collapse. The connection between the amount of success that we see in our lives is in
proportion to how healthy or unhealthy our sense of self is.
Self- Esteem is the sense of one’s worth or
value. It is the opinion or
judgment of yourself and the measure of self-respect and pride that you
have for yourself. People that
have low self-esteem do not hold themselves a high regard. They are often people pleasers that
neglect their own needs for the needs of others. Low self-esteem prevents a person
from accomplishing goals in their lives because on either a conscious or an subconscious level they do not really believe they
are worthy. Individuals that
have low self-esteem might engage in acts of self-sabotage to make their
belief that they are not worthy of success a reality, not only in their own
minds, but in their physical reality as well.
Self-confidence is the belief in yourself and your
abilities. Low self-confidence
often keeps people from going after their goals because they do not believe
they have the skills or abilities to succeed. This often creates a self-fulfilling
prophecy, if you don’t think you can then
you won’t, no matter what steps you employ. Lack of belief in your abilities
will prevent most people from even attempting to go after their goals or to
give up too quickly.
Self-Image is the overall concept or metal image of
yourself and your assessment of your qualities. This is simply what you think of
yourself, do you consider yourself as a good person or a bad person. How do you define yourself? When you think about your traits do
only see the bad? How do you describe yourself to
others? These are all questions to consider when
figuring out if your self-image is positive or negative. An unhealthy self-image impacts your overall feelings of worth which inhibits
self-improvement and growth.
These three foundation blocks are interconnected. A low self-esteem is usually going
to result in low self-confidence and poor self-image. In turn, having a negative
self-image contributes to your low self-esteem and lack of
self-confidence. The three work
together to form the foundation of self, a trouble in one area leads to
issues in the remaining two;
making the urgency to work on the areas that need improvement even
more critical.
The best way to keep your foundation strong is to first and foremost realize your worth, know that you are
a good person and that you deserve success in your life. If you really do not believe that,
you start with changing the way you think. Daily affirmations are an effective
way to change negative thoughts connected with your image, esteem, and
confidence. By telling yourself
positives, you are through repetition retraining yourself to think
differently about yourself.
Changing the way that you talk to yourself is another
way to strengthen your foundation.
Most people with low sense of self, engage
in negative self talk and are very critical of themselves. Being aware of how you talk to
yourself and making the switch from negative to positive can really change
the way you think and feel about yourself. It also improves the relationship
that you have with yourself, promoting self-love and better insights into
yourself.
By thinking of yourself as being worthy and deserving of
success in all areas of your life, you are removing limiting thinking. Our thoughts help create the
realities in our lives. By
believing in yourself, you are creating and maintaining the healthy sense
of self that is going to help you flourish.
The first step is to take action. It is important not to keep yourself
from falling down into a black hole, resulting in feelings of hopelessness
and despair. Evaluate your
esteem, confidence, and image.
Start implementing ways to improve them, one step
at a time. If you do not think
that you can do it on your own, then seek help! There is no shame in asking for
help, the shame is depriving yourself of a life of
prosperity and success.
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